How to Give Compliments on Dating Apps
Why most compliments fall flat
"You're beautiful" is technically a compliment, but it does not start a conversation. Appearance-based compliments in opening messages feel generic because the person has heard them from dozens of other matches. Compliments that reference personality, humor, or interests land much better.
Compliments that actually stand out
Compliment something they chose rather than something they were born with. "Your taste in music is incredible" or "That joke in your third prompt genuinely made me laugh" feels more meaningful. It shows you read their profile and appreciated something about who they are, not just how they look.
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Save physical compliments for after you have built some rapport. Leading with personality-based compliments and then adding a sincere "you looked great in that hiking photo" a few messages in feels natural. Dateup can help you craft compliments that feel personal and genuine for each match.
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