Match First Messages: What to Say to Get Replies
Why your first message on Match matters
On Match, most conversations die before they start because the opening message is boring. A "hey" or "what's up" gets ignored by over 80% of people. Ask a thoughtful question based on their profile interests. Match users expect more effort in opening messages.
First message formulas that work
The best openers combine observation and a question. Notice something specific in their profile and ask about it. Example: "I see you went to [place in their photo], was that recent? I've been wanting to check it out." Dateup's opener generator can create personalized first messages based on any profile.
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Avoid single-word greetings, physical compliments as openers, overly long messages, and anything copy-pasted. On Match, authenticity stands out because most people can tell when a message is generic.
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