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The League First Messages: What to Say to Get Replies

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Why your first message on The League matters

On The League, most conversations die before they start because the opening message is boring. A "hey" or "what's up" gets ignored by over 80% of people. Mention shared alma maters, industries, or career interests. The League's audience responds to professional common ground.

First message formulas that work

The best openers combine observation and a question. Notice something specific in their profile and ask about it. Example: "I see you went to [place in their photo], was that recent? I've been wanting to check it out." Dateup's opener generator can create personalized first messages based on any profile.

Messages to never send on The League

Avoid single-word greetings, physical compliments as openers, overly long messages, and anything copy-pasted. On The League, authenticity stands out because most people can tell when a message is generic.